The initial stages of joining a dating app is very similar to a kid in a candy shop because you suddenly have plenty of options to choose from and the best part is, you are free to approach almost anyone who catches your fancy in theVIRTUAL WORLD. Be it Tinder, OkCupid, Truly Madly, Hinge or any of those hundreds of new dating apps that keep popping up every other week, each one holds the potential of finding your prince charming (or princess pretty) online.
However, just like everything else in life,ONLINE DATING also has its own set of cons, one of which is the vast number of creeps trolling these dating apps. Despite the risks and misconceptions surrounding online dating, instead of shying away from the concept, you can try following these five tips which will help you to filter out the creeps and meet some genuinely interesting people:
1. AvoidFILLING OUT your dating profile like a CV
This should be a no-brainer for everyone but despite that many men (and some women) post their mobile numbers or BBM pins in hopes of getting more messages. By doing so, you are only putting yourself at the risk of getting spammed, trolled or both with a bunch of unsolicited pictures and messages. Other than your number, avoid putting up your full name, personalEMAIL ADDRESS or any other personal details on your dating profile. Your profile will be viewed by several people on a daily basis, so instead write something interesting about yourself that will set you apart from the other profiles and attract more like-minded people. Read: Revealed – the secrets to set up the perfect online dating profile!
2. Use Facebook and Whatsapp to your advantage
So, after browsing through several profiles filled with cringe-worthy selfies and self-descriptions, or swiping left for the millionth time, you finally come across anINTERESTING profile (Read:Picture or text – which is more important for your online dating profile?). You both hit it off almost instantly and have a great conversation on the app/site. You can build some trust and rapport by moving from the dating app to a more personal form of communication like WhatsApp and Facebook. The plus point about adding him on Facebook is that both of you get to see more photos and read about their background and find out about the kind of circles they prefer to hangout in. By doing this, you also get to discover your mutual friends (if any), which will give you more to talk about. However, avoid sharing your home or work landlineNUMBERS because there is no way to guarantee things will end smoothly.
3. Don’t ignore the red flags your instincts keep flashing
After spending endless hours staring at your screen, you are excited that you’ve finally met a seemingly attractive and intelligent person. However, despite the butterflies, are there certain red flags that keep popping up during your conversations on WhatsApp? For instance, does he refuse to put up or share pictures where their face is clearlyVISIBLE or add you on Facebook? Or do you feel the opposite person is overly hesitant to share certain details of their life because they might be married or maybe she refuses to meet in person even after chatting for several weeks on end? If that is the case, don’t hesitate to let go of that individual and move on.
4. Wait for at least a week before meeting
The internet is flooded with stories of Tinder nightmares or other bad online dating experiences that is enough for any sane person to vow to neverSIGN UP for online dating. However, this is mainly because most people make the mistake of meeting someone a few days or even a few hours after getting acquainted online. It is always a better and, not to mention, a safer idea to do chat with the person for at least a week or two on WhatsApp and figure out how genuine the opposite person is and if both of you are on the same page or not in terms of what you expect from him/her.
5. Don’t rush into physical intimacy
This last point will definitely make most people roll their eyes. After all, dating apps like Tinder and Hinge are widely used by 20-somethings for the sole purpose of hooking up with random people. If that’s the case, then don’t hesitate to ask the opposite person about their sexualHISTORY and if they regularly get tested for STDs before meeting in person. Online dating sites increase HIV rates according to a study. On the other hand, if you’re looking to get something more meaningful out of yourONLINE DATINGexperience, don’t hesitate to express your desire to form a deeper emotional connection with your date before engaging in coitus, like Sheldon Cooper would say.