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10 Clear Signs You’re Growing Apart and Don’t Realize It

You may have once been attached at the hip, but are things looking different now? Here are 10 signs you’re growing apart… without even realizing it.

So, you and your best friend, sister, or even significant other used be almost the same person—practically inseparable. But have you been feeling that, lately, the two of you are at odds with one another when it comes to… well… basically everything?

The tragic part about life is that people change. The average person has a personality change about once every 7 years. Now, sometimes this is so subtle that it goes unnoticed. However, sometimes it comes on drastically and can ruin friendships.

Not to worry: that doesn’t happen most of the time and unfriending someone usually happens after some big event, falling out, or problem. But sometimes people grow apart without realizing it and, before you know it, you don’t even talk to the person who was your best friend for years. [Read: 12 reasons why so many romantic relationships drift apart over time]

You’ve grown apart from someone in your life before

You probably don’t have to think very hard about growing apart from someone in your life. It usually happens between grade school and middle school, and then again transitioning into high school. This is mainly because puberty does a lot to your personality and maturity level.

Take it from someone who seems to be a professional when it comes to growing apart from people. It’s not that I try or do it on purpose; I just have a habit of growing apart from people… which makes me the perfect candidate to help you see the telltale signs that you’re growing apart and don’t realize it.

#1 Your desire to talk to them dwindles. If you’re finding that you don’t really care to talk to them that much anymore, it could be a sign you’re growing apart. This could be for a lot of reasons. Maybe you can’t muster the effort. Maybe you’re worried they wouldn’t care about what you have to say, or find it interesting.

When you’re attached at the hip or really close with someone, you tell them just about everything. If that has changed, it means you’re no longer as close as you once were. [Read: Why you lose friends or just drift apart over time]

#2 Their opinions don’t match yours most of the time. One of the main reasons you get so close to someone in the first place is that you share opinions and beliefs. When those start shifting in a different direction, it can cause you to move in a different direction, too.

Some of those beliefs are what you base your life on and if theirs differ from yours, it may cause you to spend less time with them.

#3 Your interests don’t match up anymore. Just like with opinions and beliefs, your interests are a bridge that keep the two of you connected. When that bridge is severed, do you really think you’ll be walking across it as much as you used to?

If you start liking a different kind of music, movie, or even lifestyle and they like the opposite, it’s less opportunity for the two of you to spend time together or discuss your favorite reads—which means you will, inevitably, grow apart.

#4 You made new friends who don’t care for them. A lot of the time, new friends can throw a wedge between old ones. If you’re finding new friends to hang out with more often than your old ones, it’s a sign you’re growing apart.

What’s more is that your new friends might not like your old friends. So you don’t invite them along with you, because it would be weird for them. That can really tear relationships apart… without you even realizing it. [Read: 14 clear signs your best friend isn’t your best friend anymore]

#5 They’re not the first person you want to invite to events. I know I had a best friend that would be my #1 go-to if I ever won one of those contests on the radio for a “trip for two” to somewhere amazing. But when I was asked recently who I would take if I won, it wasn’t her.

She isn’t the only—or the first—person I would want to bring with me anywhere. I didn’t realize it until that moment, but we’ve grown apart drastically in the past few months.

#6 You ignore their calls. And you do so without remorse. You find that you just don’t want to pick up the phone and talk to them. It might be a very little thing, because people find so many ways to justify not answering.

You’re “busy,” can’t talk at the moment, or even just “didn’t get it.” But honestly, there’s a reason you aren’t picking up when you would’ve answered on the first ring before.

#7 Your friend group has shifted. You more than likely had a certain friend group with this person. The two of you hung out with them all the time and they might have been the glue that really kept the two of you together.

But now you hang out with one group while they hang out with another, and don’t see each other too often. Getting into a new group of friends that they don’t share with you is a sign you’re growing apart.

#8 You find them annoying. This is also a very subtle sign that you’re growing apart because, honestly, you can get annoyed by anybody. However, if you’re always irritated with someone when they don’t really do anything to spark it, it could mean that you’re growing apart.

This happened to me and a roommate of mine. We used to be friends *obviously, since we moved in together* but after a while, just her being in the room was enough to annoy the heck out of me. We grew apart and I didn’t even know it at the time.

#9 You go longer periods of time without seeing them—and you don’t care. You haven’t seen this person in two weeks and you couldn’t really care less. That’s how you know that you’ve really grown apart.

When you’re close to someone, you want to see them as often as you can. When you’ve grown apart from someone, the desire to see their face and interact with them just isn’t there anymore.

#10 You can think of people more important to you. When your newest friends rank above the person who used to be #1 on all your lists, you’ve begun to grow apart. When there are more important people that keep sliding in spots above them, you’ve already grown apart.

[Read: 17 bad friends you need to unfriend from your life]

Growing apart can be a slow, drawn-out process that can take years to fully complete. You may not even realize how much you’ve grown apart from someone. This list can help you identify the early signs and act accordingly.

Original article by LovePanky.com: 10 Clear Signs You’re Growing Apart and Don’t Realize It.

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1 Comment on 10 Clear Signs You’re Growing Apart and Don’t Realize It

  1. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 5, and we have one child together. Our marriage feels very tense and unhappy. There are a lot of issues. The main ones are: We have just grown apart. Our interests and day to day lifestyle choices are so different now. Some of it has been him changing, and some of it has been me. For example, his taste in food has gotten much more “meat and potatoes.” He used to be totally supportive of any adventurous meal I wanted to cook, and now if I make anything other than meat and one of the few vegetables he’ll eat, he picks at it and then eats cheese after dinner. But I’ve also changed. This probably sounds minor but it comes up all the time. Since having our son, I can only tolerate very “bland” TV. I can’t stand gore, psychological or physical torture, violence, etc. I have to ask my husband to watch shows like Hannibal or The Walking Dead when I’m not home. And he doesn’t like any of the movies or shows I want to see. I also have gotten more into some interests that I had before we got married that don’t interest him at all, like wine-making, organic gardening, meditation, and yoga. He’s not interested in any of these things and his eyes glaze over quickly when I try to talk to him about it. I feel like he picks at me for little things. He complains about me buying too many apples and then eats all of them and tells me I should have bought more. I got him an accordion folder for a project he was working on and he complained that it was totally unnecessary; six months later he said he was really glad that HE thought to get himself that accordion folder because it really saved him when he needed to find a piece of paperwork quickly. Maybe those are the two main issues. Because of those things, the “quality time” we spend together just doesn’t feel very quality any more. When we do get time together to do something fun, we don’t have good conversations or enjoy each other any more. Are we doomed to just have a tolerable-but-not-enjoyable marriage for the rest of our lives? I don’t see either of us changing our basic preferences for things but it seems petty to get divorced over relatively minor issues like this.

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